How to H.E.L.P. Someone along in Suffering

3 Sep

September 8 will be six months without Dad.  It’s unfathomable.  I can’t imagine life without him, yet we’ve been doing it for six months.  It’s still so very painful.

Our church family has been amazingly supportive through this valley, but we all can use a few pointers for how to counsel/support someone along this path of suffering.  I would say these tips are spot on for helping someone through a dark valley of suffering.  Check out Pastor Doug Wolter’s blog post on H.E.L.P.

H- Do not give answers–give Hope. Hope comes in the form of Jesus–the One who understands suffering most.  After all, he was the only innocent One who endured a criminal’s death.
E -Enter her pain–weep with her.
L – Be quick to Listen and slow to speak.
P – Pray for her and Patiently walk w/her through the long journey of suffering–long after help has stopped.

I am so encouraged by those who still ask how I’m doing and listen to me pour out my pain.  A band-aid wasn’t enough to heal the gaping wound of losing my dad.  Thank you to those who are still letting me bleed it out and heal properly.  

One Response to “How to H.E.L.P. Someone along in Suffering”

  1. Mom September 3, 2013 at 8:16 pm #

    Amen dear daughter….the pain is so real.

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